Trips in Silence
If you're a girl
in your 20's or 30's,
I have a big question for you...
DOES THE NEED TO LOOK
COOL, SMART & ALL ''PUT TOGETHER''
OFTEN MAKE YOU FEEL...
LIKE A STRANGER IN YOUR OWN LIFE,
WITH LITTLE ROOM TO BE YOURSELF?
If you're ready to change that... this is for you!
We're so good at
''pretending to be that, in order to fit in here''
that it's become too normal...
But is it worth doing?
THE INNER WORLD JOURNEY
7-day self-love program
TO INSTANTLY CONNECT TO YOUR HIGHEST SELF (a.k.a. the real, amazing & unique you) & START LIVING LIFE IN A WAY THAT FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU.
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GET TO KNOW & LOVE YOURSELF LIKE NEVER BEFORE
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You'll connect to the deepest parts of your soul, and break free from inner limitations that you couldn't see before.
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You'll know, understand, accept & love yourself like most people never get a chance to do.
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You'll boost your self-esteem in ways you never thought possible, and you'll feel excited to show up in the world as the new you .
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SHINE FOR WHO YOU ARE
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You'll start shining for who you really are, and you'll stop trying to shine for who you're not, both in your personal & professional life.
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You'll stop living in the shadows of other people's light, and start standing out for the qualities and skills that truly define you at your best.
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GET THE CONFIDENCE TO CHANGE THE COURSE OF YOUR LIFE
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You'll gain unshakeable confidence about what you want and your ability to get it, and what's important to you, and all your decisions will automatically become a reflection of that.
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You'll feel happier and 100% at peace with who you are, your journey, and every new choice you make, already from Day 1.
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You'll see your dream life being manifested right in front of your eyes, as a direct consequence of the new inner world that you've created and nurtured with all the loving tools inside this program.
This is #not
how you're supposed to feel every morning
...BUT IF YOU DO, WE CAN QUICKLY CHANGE THAT.
How to let go of the fake
''show-up-and-smile'' you
and step into
the real you
WITHOUT FAILING IN THE ATTEMPT
You'd LOVE to feel confident & free in your own life, but instead...
You...
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spend most of your time feeling insecure, inadequate and behind, compared to the people around you..
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often feel like you don't fit in, either at your current job or when you meet up with others socially..
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frequently shy away from speaking your mind, both at work and in your personal life, because you're afraid that your friends, family, boss, colleagues, you name it, will think that you're either a weirdo or not smart enough for them..
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constantly doubt your ability at work, to deliver the results that you're expected to come up with, but always try to keep it together and show your best face so that nobody suspects how insecure you're really feeling..
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don't feel comfortable asking your colleagues for help because you're afraid that they'll think you're dumb..
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feel a constant need to impress others with what you do, and feel down when no one celebrates you or what you're doing..
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spend your days hiding behind a facade of what you think the people around you perceive as right...
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don't feel like you can be you 100%, without breaking other people's expectations of what you should be..
But the worst part is that YOU'RE A HARD WORKER. You always put your heart and soul into doing your best. You've followed all the rules, and still something feels off in your life.
You could easily relate to a day like this...
It's 7-ish in the morning, you get ready for work, have some breakfast & coffee, and step out of your door.
Telling your boss that although it's been weeks since he asked, you still haven't solved that thing that you were hired for
You make it to the office feeling a strange combination of nervousness with fear and anxiety, and you start thinking about how you'll explain to your boss that you still haven't come up with a solution for that problem that you've been trying to solve for weeks.
Only 10 seconds into your fear, your boss walks in aaand...
''Sooo, how's that project going? I hope you've got good news!''
Getting over the disappointment
You do your best to explain what's going on, trying to sound optimistic, humble and confident all at the same time.
While he listens, you can't help noticing the disappointment in his face. You're freaking out inside (but you keep it together, so no one notices...)
You're starting to think that anyone could do this better than you...
You told your boss that you'd do your best to figure this out, but you honestly have no clue of what to do now.
You also don't want to ask your other colleagues for help, because, what if you ask something stupid and they think you're dumb?
You're starting to think that someone else could probably solve in 5min what you've been looking at for weeks. If you could only solve this one thing on your own, then you could prove yourself wrong. But you can't!
Lunch time - no fun time either
It's lunch time. You sit with your colleagues, but you barely say anything because you're not into what they're talking about.
You'd rather stay quiet, to avoid saying anything silly that could make you look like a fool.
The last thing you want, is to be made fun of by the people you work with. Better to keep a nice decent relationship, even if that implies that you can't be 100% you.
And on your way home... the real you kicks in
Work is over. You get on the bus back home, and you start thinking...
well this day was.... pretty shitty..
..I hope tomorrow will be better... but, will it?
..it seems like most days feel shitty in some way..
..do I even enjoy what I do?
..does it matter if I don't? I mean.. it's not great but it's okay I guess..
..why can't I be better at what I do? I'm trying so hard....
..and the people I work with.. they're okay but.. could be better..
..I work with them all the time... shouldn't we be friends?
..if not them... who are my friends?
..will my high-school and university friends be my only friends ever?
..when exactly did I sign up for this life?
You take a deep breath, and hope that tomorrow will be better. In the meantime, some comfort food and Netflix will do. You deserve it. After all, you had a rough day!
Friday beers: what you should feel but you don't
You grab your phone, check your work e-mail again out of habit, and notice a new Friday beers invite.
You're supposed to be excited! ...but you're not. You don't really feel like you fit in. It's enough spending time with these people at work... do you really also have to spend your free time with them?
You don't want to be rude because they're nice people. But they're just not your type.
You're honestly tired of faking it
And honestly, you're tired of putting up your happy-to-be-here face when you're just not. So the big dilemma starts...
what will they say if I don't join?
...they're going to ask why I'm not joining...
...I have to come up with an excuse...
...but I don't like lying...
...damn... I wish they hadn't invited me in the first place...
...where's the people that I actually want to hang out with?
...where's the people that I can really be myself with?
If you don't do something about it, it just gets worst...
What most of us girls do when we feel like this, is we blame everything on ourselves. We start to question:
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why we're not good enough,
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why we don't fit in,
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what we're doing wrong,
and we try to fix things by doing what we think is ''right''. But the problem is that...
The ''one-right-fits-all'' approach doesn't exist when it comes to living a fulfilling life. And when you follow some random ''right'', this is what happens...
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Making your parents feel proud of you or making your friends think you're cool, can easily cost you an entire life of happiness, without you even realising it. You develop the habit of always doing what you think is right for other people, and you leave no room to discover what's right for you.
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You don't feel confident enough to choose things that will make you happy, if it's not what other people are choosing, because you trust other people's decisions more than your very own.
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Your self-esteem depends on what other people think or say about you, and this shows up in every aspect of your life, including your career, hobbies and the people that you choose to be surrounded by.
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And if you do nothing, a couple of years from now...
Fast forward to a few years from now, you're still in the same job, surrounded by the same boring people that you can't relate to.
At this point, your self-esteem is lower than ever, you don't even feel like going out and meeting anyone, because you've got nothing interesting to share.
THOSE FRIENDS & THAT LOVE never happened
You've gotten used to the idea that you'll never find those friends that you once dreamed of having, and let's not even talk about that one person that you thought would deeply fall in love with you for who you are: nowhere to be found.
You're almost 40 now and you've no idea what the flopp happened to your life, but it's definitely not what you thought you'd signed up for.
You barely open Instagram anymore, because you're tired of seeing a bunch of happy and successful people, and you're hoping that your family doesn't ask how you're doing, because your life isn't really something you're excited to talk about.
BUT THAT WON'T HAPPEN TO YOU, IF YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT TODAY.
Change a few things here & there, and go from being a stranger in your life to the queen that you deserve to be.
Imagine this...
You get out of bed, look outside your window, and can't help to realise how lucky you are to walk into the day ahead of you.
You've created the life of your dreams:
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You no longer have to choose between being yourself and being the way you ''should be'', because you've understood that what you should be, is yourself. And it's exactly being yourself which has led you to this wonderful life, where you're no longer a stranger. Now, you're the queen.
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You spend your day loooving your job and you're not just good at it, you're GREAT. And because you are, you also get paid tons of money. All the money you need to live in that beautiful home, go our for delicious food, travel as much as you want, support your family economically as much as you want to, and get super cute gifts for all your friends, every time you feel like it.
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Not only you constantly learn from your teammates, but they're sooo happy to have you around, because you bring to the table ideas and solutions that no one else can come up with.
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You have friends that you love spending your free time with, and who love you and accept you exactly the way you are. They understand your sense of humour, the type of things you like to do, but more than that, they respect your decisions and way of thinking, no matter how crazy they might get some times!
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You've found the love of your life, and your relationship grows stronger and more beautiful everyday. You pinch yourself daily, to make sure you're not dreaming about this incredible person that loves and supports you (including all the craziness and weirdness in you) in a way that you never imagined possible.
How I went from living someone else's dream, to being... the author & queen of MY OWN dream-life
AND IT DIDN'T TAKE A GIANT & SCARY BLIND LEAP OF FAITH
''My parents and friends seem proud, so I must be doing things right!'' #not
I did everything ''right'':
I finished high-school, spent a year abroad learning French, graduated as a Mechanical Engineer with honours, and got a Master's Degree in Wind Energy.
I had lived, studied and successfully worked as an engineer, in Venezuela, France, Germany, Sweden & Denmark.
My parents and sisters seemed proud of me, and all my friends saw me as the smartest one. So I thought - ''I'm doing it right!''
But I wasn't following what was right for me
Half-way into my Masters, it was clear to me that something was wrong. I realised that I busted my ass off, pursuing dreams that weren't mine.
So as a consequence... I ENDED UP CREATING A LIFE THAT DIDN'T FIT ME. A life where I felt like a complete stranger.
Little self-worth & confidence
I had unconsciously made all my decisions based on other people's opinions, because I depended on those opinions to feel good about myself.
What my friends, family, guys I dated, teachers, colleagues, bosses, thought of me, held me together. If they saw me as a success, I felt like a success. But only until this way of living started feeling heavy on my shoulders.
We've all made life decisions thinking about other people, instead of thinking about ourselves
I chose what I thought was right ''in general''. But my choices were wrong because I didn't make them thinking about my own happiness, but based on:
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the need to be seen a certain way
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and the fear to be judged or criticised...
What's your thing?
Maybe you did choose your career right. Maybe you have an awesome job that you love.
But there's another area in your life that's slowly falling apart because you've been scared to look inwards and choose what you truly want, and instead, keep doing what you think other people expect you to do.
From ''what the heck just happened''
to ''let me show you how to fix it''
If you're on the same boat I was in, and you want to fix it, something needs to happen everyday
No one can change their core way of being plus their external world in 5 minutes, when they've programmed themselves to being a certain way for more than 2 decades.
So I decided that everyday, I would intentionally do everything in my power to..
..BECOME THAT BRAVE PERSON WHO WASN'T AFRAID TO BE HERSELF UNAPOLOGETICALLY, UNTIL ONE DAY, FEELING A STRANGER IN MY LIFE WAS A THING OF THE PAST.
And that's exactly what happened.
This is how my life changed
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I went from being a full-time research, development & commercial engineer, to building the entire Trips in Silence brand and platform, which I now get to work on and nourish full-time.
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After I learned to love and accept myself exactly the way I was, I met the love of my life. A kind man that not only supports me in all my victories and loves every weird part of me, but who also hugs me tight every time I feel like crying - for whatever reason.
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I opened up to my family, friends and old colleagues about my real interests and new goals, feeling no shame at all.
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I turned a job that I didn't love, into an opportunity that I did love - as a short & temporary solution. I shifted my daily perspective, to fall in love with that not-so-fun job temporarily, and used those funds to build the life that I have now - which guess what? doesn't involve that job anymore!
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I cultivated a sense of self-esteem and confidence stronger than ever before, learning to stand out by my own unique personality, skills & qualities.
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My self-worth no longer depends on what other people think of me, which is why I feel 100% free to show up as myself no matter who's in front of me, and I only attract people that are up for that real version of me.
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How I live every minute of my life is 100% aligned to my deepest desires. I imprint my own values into every decision that I make, both in terms or work and relationships.
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I no longer make my decisions based on what my parents, colleagues, boyfriend or friends will say or think. I'm not afraid to choose what's right for me even if it means going against the masses.
Here goes the magic recipe
Change can sound scary, but it's not - if you do it this way
First, I'll tell you what I didn't do: I didn't take a scary blind leap of faith.
Instead, welcomed into my life daily practices that tuned me into my intuition and allowed me to live in connection to it - always. These practices helped me turn off the noise of the world and follow my inner voice since the minute I woke up until the moment I went to bed.
A little dose will go a long way
I discovered the perfect combination, amount and ratio of:
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Meditation
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Visualisation
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Journaling
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& Intention Setting
to guide myself back to the me who knows exactly what the right choices are for me, and who's not afraid of making them. The part of me that feels confident and peaceful every step of the way, because she trusts herself more than anybody else to lead her life.
I DISCOVERED A SIDE OF ME THAT I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW EXISTED, BECAUSE RELYING ON EXTERNAL OPINIONS WOULDN'T LET ME SEE IT.
These practices made it easy for me to chance the course of my life day by day, since I felt guided and supported every step of the way. So it wasn't a scary process. It was a liberating and loving one.
Want to follow the same process? I got you.
This whole journey of mine is what led me to create The Inner World Journey, a 7-day journey especially designed to:
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gently bring you close to your highest self, which is the part of you that knows exactly who you are, and which constantly pulls you in the right direction based on what's important to you,
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get you to effectively build a life where you feel like a freaking queen, by making you stay connected to your highest self every minute of your day, and letting this connection take over both your small and big decisions.
Who am I & why should you listen to me?
SURE! LET ME EXPLAIN...
Hi! I'm Mary.
While working as research, development & commercial engineer for 5 years in the corporate world, moving to a new city every 6 months, and living in 5 different countries, away from my closest friends and family, I became an expert at building self-care practices to develop inner peace in the midst of chaos.
Four years ago, meditation, visualisation & journaling, taught me that there's a wise silence within all of us, that hides more & better answers than anything that we can find out there in the noisy world.
Today, I work full-time on showing you how to tap into that magical inner wisdom, where all the answers that you're looking for are waiting to be found.
I'M NOT THE TYPICAL BORN-CONFIDENT GIRL OR ALWAYS-ZEN-SPIRITUAL-YOGI. I'M JUST THAT FRIEND THAT WILL SUPPORT YOU IN LIVING THE LIFE THAT'S MEANT FOR YOU - AND GUIDE YOU THERE.
I'm a normal girl who's gone through LOADS of ups & downs as a student, engineer, immigrant, daughter, sister, friend, girlfriend and now also entrepreneur. And - because of that - I've cracked the code to step out who we're not, and step into who we're meant to be.
I FOUNDED TRIPS IN SILENCE TO TEACH YOU HOW TO USE MINDFULNESS PRACTICES TO CREATE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF, AND CREATE & LIVE A LIFE THAT'S A REFLECTION OF THAT.
It worked for these people and it will work for you
I WENT FROM FEELING INADEQUATE & STRANGE IN MY OWN LIFE 24-7, TO FEELING LIKE THE LUCKIEST PERSON ON EARTH, BECAUSE I GET TO CHOOSE EXACTLY WHAT MY DAYS, WEEKS & MONTHS WILL LOOK LIKE
..but what's really impressive, is what these other strong & beautiful girls just like you, are saying after going through
THE INNER WORLD JOURNEY